Problems in the bedroom

  I don’t know if I am the only woman that has this problem or not. Have you ever gone to your significant other hinting that you want to be intimate with them and they say no?  I have had this as a continuing problem for a number of YEARS with my spouse. It’s not just 1-2 times a month that this happens but EVERY time I go to him and hint. It is like we are in a severe drought on the bedroom scene in my eyes. Yes he works outside the home and I understand her is tired at time from work. I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that it is every time I want to it’s always no. He never is the initiator either so it makes it doubly frustrating. What is a woman to do?? I start feeling like he is not interested in me when this happens on a consistent basis. Like I am not thin enough to his liking or that there is something wrong with me. I know it’s not that or at least I hope it’s not.  I know we have young kids (ages 4 and 7) but it’s like I have become a nun almost since they have come along. We used to have “fun” every night and sometimes twice a day and since the kids it’s become a scheduled event on Fridays or Saturdays if I’m lucky. I just don’t really understand why the change. Yes we are a little bit older now but I feel I am the same person as when we were first married. We have been married for 8 yrs now and together for 10 yrs. I really just don’t get it. I have tried different tactics and nothing seems to work. I feel like we are coming apart in this area and I just don’t understand why. Have any of you experienced this and what did you do to change it? Please try to keep it G rated since my daughters tend to read over my shoulder :)